He was suffering from liver related ailment. Hazards of the occupation. But he saw two things that mattered a lot to him. Ram Mandir and BJP win in WB

Thanks to him we know about the hatchet job done by a certain senior IPS who has now been suspended. Check TT. Few lawyers can have spine and courage to do that in an open court addressing the CJ.

I teach at a good NLU I feel. I applied 5 times here for the post of Assistant Professor and got it 5th time. I have worked as a Research Fellow at a different NLU gor 3 years, joined PhD and then worked at this NLU for about 1.5 years at a different role. While I was in that role, I failed twice to land the role of AP. Went to a different uni for an year and then got the role. Honestly don't know what changed except a little more publications.

I like my job. I get to teach one batch only, which helps me focus on teaching. You get ample time to research and publish. The pay is as per UGC standards, so it will never be equal to even a Senior Associate at a law firm.

How to land this role- keep publishing while you're doing a PhD. If you're doing Masters or Bachelors, keep publishing. Try to make connections as well. Apart from all this, I don't really know what to say.

Recently, MNLU Mumbai released a guide on procuring sponsorships and encourages students to do so for participating in international competitions. However, with this measure, the university has washed its hands of any obligation to provide funding for students, as if any student procures sponsorship, everything from the registration fee to travel costs are deducted from it first with the university only contributing to costs exceeding the sponsorship. Additionally, the university requires receipts for all sponsorship spending and reserves the right to reject claims. The issue is, the university has done absolutely nothing to help students achieve these sponsorships- it’s 100% the student’s efforts from contacting advocates to law firms. Despite it all, the university can now unilaterally claim the efforts of students under this policy, claiming it’ll save the sponsorship money for future editions of the same moot (which itself is contingent on something participating in the same moot and reaching the international stage once more). This is blatant abuse of power and just another evidence of the university’s corrupt practices (like 10 years and no campus?) If anyone has experienced this at their university, how did you handle it? Is there any legal ground under which student efforts for procuring sponsorships can be preserved and not given to this ▮▮▮ institution?

[Delhi office]

interned there in my final year for 2 months [feb '23-mar'23]. Was lucky to get back to back slots as the intern who was supposed to join in march backed out and due to my good rapport with the associates I got called back. got paid 15k p/m. Was exposed to deals within my first week and the associates were really sweet and helped me with a plethora of things even going as far as including and crediting me in front of partners. The partner was also super chill yet firm when it came to deliverables, also gave constructive feedback. But as they say, all good things must come to an end. Inevitably, in spite of great reviews, wasn't considered for a full time offer (owing to the fact that i was from a no-name private law school) but had a great internship experience there. Would recommend to get hands on experience but not for long term).

P.s. this is just my personal experience for a short 2 month stint and considering that a lot of people have negative opinions about the firm, i would suggest that you apply and find out for yourself. also the entire cohort of associates that was there when i was interning was relatively younger (max pqe was 4) and have all left and moved on to amazing T1 corp/m&a/pe/vc teams and in-house roles. Good Luck!

Isn't this a violation of human rights? Shouldn't Bangladeshi Muslim migrants be given an opportunity to claim asylum and until such time the Indian state gives them food and shelter? Also, what about those who married Indian citizens and gave birth to children?

https://www.telegraphindia.com/west-bengal/rush-at-bangladesh-border-as-bjp-led-bengals-detect-delete-deport-policy-takes-hold-prnt/cid/2162563

https://www.hindustantimes.com/india-news/detect-delete-and-deport-why-bengal-migrants-are-gathering-around-bangladesh-border-in-huge-numbers-101779866378626.html

Bruh... our rank is below Bangladesh, Haiti, Angola etc. 😔

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_GDP_(nominal)_per_capita

Hi there. I was in this position a few years ago. The firm I used to work with desperately wanted me out since they did not like me, and I was thrown under the bus for the gross negligence of a senior. I was unemployed for 9 months. At least 10 to 12 interview rejections. I never gave up. Thereafter, I finally got into a tier 3 and worked my way up, today I am an SA in another tier 3. Took a lot to wipe off the black mark from that disgusting firm. But here I am today. Still surviving. Do not give up OP. Keep up the sincerity and hardwork. Good things will come your way.

PS: One of the firms which rejected me during my struggling days, despite my almost pleading for a chance, interviewed me once my career was back on track. This time, I rejected them, and they pleaded me, but I refused them. Things will turn around for you too as long as you are sincere. Look for good people to work with.

Hi everyone,

I have around 6 months of experience in a law firm, primarily working on transactions and general corporate matters. Unfortunately, my previous firm could not retain me due to commercial reasons, and I have been actively looking for opportunities for the past 2 months since leaving. Although my experience was short, I genuinely tried to make the most of it and got hands-on exposure to whatever work came my way. I’m confident in my ability to learn quickly and contribute meaningfully if given the opportunity.

That said, the repeated rejections have honestly started affecting my confidence a bit. Reaching out here seemed best.

I’m particularly looking for opportunities with boutique law firms, even if it’s for a trainee associate role, where I can continue learning and build long-term experience in corporate practice.

Would really appreciate any suggestions, referrals, or leads. Thank you in advance :)

There are only 6 T1 Law colleges properly in India, NLS, NALSAR, NUJS, NLUJ, GNLU and NLUD.

How are they ranked in 2026 ?
There used to be a time NLIU used to above GNLU and NLUJ but that has since fallen and NLIU would be somewhere in T1.5. While NUJS and NALSAR used to be top 3 above NLUD, now NLUD has claimed to be #2 although placements may not be as strong as other T1(s).

As far as I know NUJS, NLS and NALSAR hold the best placements record with GNLU trying to enter that league with over 40 + PPO(s) and over 70 placements by Day Z, which will probably and sadly make it another Corporate factory despite GLASS. NLUJ has always been decent although people have started keeping GNLU over it.

My rankings would be -
NLS
NALSAR/NLUD
NUJS
GNLU/NLUJ (although one can keep them above NUJS if they are willing to sacrifice alumni base and a better peer group for other facilities)

How would you rank them honestly ? And your 2 cents on how much difference does it make being in any of them ?

My team takes care of the IP due diligence aspect for any acquisitions, merger, investments etc. we also look into specific IP related contracts like technology transfer, specific IP transfer agreements. (that depends on deal to deal). Prosecution work is also there but we receive a lot of advisory mandates as well.

Hi, OP here.

In part it is from ease of common law jurisdiction that I would enjoy having done my undergrad in India. Alternatives like the USA are so actively hostile right now that I'm at odds with considering (I acknowledge that the UK is no snowflake either, it however a matter of relative comparison). I would want to consider the EU but I know that short of say C1 levels of native language fluency I will achieve nothing, so overall I'm inclined for the UK, notwithstanding the challenges I'd face there (which is part and parcel for anybody wanting to go abroad in this climate).

If you are asking why abroad ?, that should be self explanatory. I was born lucky to afford such affluence and I desire to not rot my life away in whatever this country is.

Hope that helps.

lol did you even read what you yourself have written? He hit someone. The girls hitting him was also not fine and he should’ve made his boundaries clear if it was uncomfortable for him (which based on your account, doesn’t seem to be the case). There is always a reason to do something, heck even murder has a reason. Does not make it okay lol

It is easy to say things like this when you have no context. Let me give you some context.

I have been friends with this ▮▮▮A" since before campus opened physically. I have seen him face the highest of ups and the lowest of downs in all these years. He never liked NUJS and I always fought with him about it, now I clearly see why.

He makes friends everywhere he goes. The same friend group which is intent on ruining his name used to call him a member of their "girl gang". One of them had named him punching bag and they used to properly hit him everyday and he never minded. All of them knew he was safe and he never retaliated. I used to ask him why he let them and he said he enjoyed the fun and games and they were his friends. Once I also remember members of the same girl gang putting a passed out junior girl to carry in the arms of this same guy they are calling unsafe now. He ensured she reached her hostel safely while they partied.

Now tell me, why did this guy slap the girl? This guy who was so safe girls felt they could absolutely smack him and all they would get in return is a smile. This guy who never had one speck of violence towards any of his female friends. I specify female friends as I do not live in the BH and cannot say for what he did there. I can only tell about the times when my batchmates in GH called him whenever there was emergency in the middle of the night.

So yes, you are right when you say "usne bhi kuch kiya hoga". I refuse to believe that he slapped her without a genuine reason behind it and evidently I am not alone. You can call him a lot of things but you cannot call him an assaulter.

He refuses to tell me or anyone for that matter what triggered the slap. He just says he got angry and that "maarna nahi chahiye tha". He has gotten angry before, he has never raised hands. Kuch to jarur kiya hoga that he ended up slapping.

You need to understand that things are not always black and white. So many people in my batch have done more than slapping and no one said anything. Just because this is a guy and a girl, suddenly everyone is triggered. Exchange the genders and there have been multiple instances with no consequence. The girl gang and their boys have turned their backs on him but for me, I will still be his friend. And I will hit him sometimes and know that he will return a smile. I have had my fair share of experiences in 5 years and I know how to judge a person. He was there when people needed him and now the same people have ganged up against him. I will not. And I'm happy to see that I am not alone.

I got an internship experience where one of the associate was really sweet, genuine and looked out for me in a big team. and stepped in for me without being asked. very professional behavior nothing romantic or weird but im so attached to this experience im very sad the internship has to end how do I get over it. doesn't help that hes good looking and probably gets along with everyone. hes a senior associate and had no business being this nice

I understand everyone is angry and rightly so; a life has been lost. But are we really going to convict a person based on what we have seen in the media? Most of us are lawyers. Lets understand the process required to hold someone guilty. Note: I am not condoning any behaviour here. I'm just saying, follow the law, as we have learnt. I'd think at the very least BCI ought to have sent him a SCN.

I am around 5-6 years of PQE in Dispute Resolution practice of a Tier 1 and currenlty on notice. I hear that Mr. Gaurav Juneja from KCO may be looking to hire - any points of note in respect of how is he as a boss and how is the team to work with? Also, any views on Anagram and other leads please?

I understand that, but cannot i resolve it at my end? The matter is currently at other defendant's evidence stage, plaintiff's cross examination is completed so at this stage cannot i file set aside order application to set aside the order where we have been proceeded ex parte?

Also our WS, Vakalatnama, Affidavit of submission/denial was on record in time, can court still proceed us exparte, instead of just closing our evidence right?

Thanks for the detailed answer, since i have my name on Vakalatanama is it possible to just file the application to set aside order with signatures at end Through counsel, or do these applications mandatorily require affidavit of client, main issue is that client and firm doesn't know yet and i want to resolve the issue at my end, even if cost is imposed like 2000, i can pay from my own pocket, but telling firm would lead to me getting fired as 4-5 appearances have been missed and due to financial crunch i cannot afford that right now.

Thanks for the help.

Sounds like a hot episode of Maamla Legal Hai! Hahahah anyway... as far as I can tell, the matter is perhaps for the Commercial Court. File Order 9 Rule 13 (or Order 9 Rule 7, depending on the context) and state something along the lines of an e-courts glitch, etc., as it is down almost all the time. I have even seen applications being allowed on the pretext of "mera munshi diary maintain karna bhul gaya," so trust me, it's not going to be that bad.

Offer to compensate the defendant with costs (how much depends on a judge-to-judge basis—sneak into their previous cause lists and you will know how much this specific judge is imposing in other matters). You can also ask the Ahlmad, LC, or Reader of the court to find out how much cost this judge usually imposes. Whether the defendant's evidence is at the tendering stage or the cross-examination stage determines the cost that would most likely be imposed on you.

Other than this, there is a plethora of Delhi High Court (DHC) judgments that have allowed plaintiffs to participate even at a later stage. Look for the principle that 'procedural defects shall not cease a litigant's statutory rights.'

So you can’t really hide it from your partner or firm long term, since the client will surely enquire about it someday (especially if 3-4 hearings have already happened). I’d say the best thing for you would be to come clean to your partner before he finds out from some other source and hope for the best.

Hi folks,

Now that bonuses and increments are out for all. What is your monthly/ yearly fixed and variable salary at A2 level (2024 batch).

Please answer like this:

(Firm Name) - (Fixed pay (monthly or yearly)) - (Variable pay (due in March 27)

Let the gates of information flow for people to assess pay across T1 and T2 firms.

The new govt is actually looking to relocate Messi statue! It is such a hideous thing. Why don't they dump all these inspired artworks in the compounds of little green wo/men and also complete a forensic audit of how monies got spent. Looks like the same old, same old will happen sooner than later despite the rhetoric.

Feku hisab. When security cover for other honchos were getting rightsized, the MHA upgraded it for Kakoli GD. Rember her comments after the Park Street rape case, just after GreenHouse gas effect began. Since then this MP made it her life's mission to match her Great Leader word for word. And now when she is making overtures to switch, the BJP despite all the talk talk is falling head over heels to reel her in. What next, a Guv position or some fancy sinecure in exchange for salacious tales on Leader and Senapati? Is this why we vote?

Then again if Mahua M had to drink bitter Mahua when Babul Supriyo switched or Kalyan B is allowed to get away or BJP leaders invent juvenile reasons to evict Mahua from the LS, then we shouldn't cry over the bar getting lower everyday.

Demolitions too are for show. Didn't the new govt know that there will be resistance and Courts will step in. Now it's fumbling. The public isn't stupid.

And the icing is the infamous BDO now out on bail because the IO for the murder case was missing and the requisite papes didn't reach the judge who kept waiting till 8pm!

Hi everyone,

I’m a Batch of 2027 student from a Tier-3 NLU and will be graduating next year. I have primarily built my CV around dispute resolution and have interned with Tier-1 and some of the best Tier-2 firms in the disputes space. My work exposure has largely been in commercial litigation, arbitration, IBC, electricity disputes, and related areas. I also have a few decent publications.

Academically, however, my CGPA is only slightly above average, which has been a major source of anxiety for me lately.

Currently, I have two internships lined up, both under commercial litigation chambers founded by former partners of reputed Tier-2 firms. While I’m grateful for these opportunities, I honestly don’t know whether they will eventually lead to assessments or job opportunities.

During my 4th year of law school, I have interned for approximately 5 months across different firms and chambers. I even received a callback from one place, but after asking about an assessment, I was eventually ghosted. At present, I do not have any assessment lined up, and I genuinely feel confused about how I am supposed to secure my first job.

I understand that most Tier-1 firms generally do not hire freshers directly for disputes, and realistically, considering my CGPA and college background, I know my chances there are limited. I’m not aiming for core corporate work either — disputes is where my interest genuinely lies.

At this point, I am completely open to starting with a chamber job as well, even in the ₹25–30k range initially. My primary concern is simply getting my foot in the door and building a stable career in commercial disputes.

I would genuinely appreciate advice from:

Law firm partners

Senior associates

Freshers currently working in disputes

litigation chamber associates

Anyone who has navigated a similar path

What should I be doing in the next one year before graduation so that by the time I graduate, I am able to secure a job in commercial disputes? What practical steps should I take right now as a fresher to improve my chances?

I would be extremely grateful for any honest guidance or suggestions.

I would also request the moderators to feature this post, as I believe it could help many other students who are interested in pursuing a career in dispute resolution.

Not the above commenter, but why will there be any jealousy over here? The person literally said, "these clubs are watering holes for those born with silver spoons." It ain't like any of them have achieved something to get in there right? And I don't think anyone shall be jealous of the lousy losers who do get the access and think that others are below them in any manner/ jealous of them. It's like network marketing people, all of them just extending recognition and respect within themselves on nothing but an iota of a person's sperm.

Hey, I had engaged with his service once. The experience was okay overall, but I did notice that some additions were made to the resume without much clarity or discussion. Also, mock interview prep was initially promised, but I didn’t really get much support. No, none of the resume he generated was submitted to any of the places I applied to; they seemed AI-generated. Just wanted to share my experience so you can evaluate accordingly.

My friend had a difficult experience interning with the Labour & Employment team in the Delhi office. The work culture appeared extremely demanding, with working hours often extending till midnight or even later.

What was more disappointing was the lack of consideration towards interns’ well being and work boundaries. The environment felt unnecessarily harsh and stressful, especially from certain associates in the team.

Of course, every person’s experience can differ, but based on what I observed and heard closely, it did not seem like a supportive team environment for interns.

Hello Legally India team,

OP here. I just went through the comments on this post and other threads and found out that Kian has left LI and in his place, there’s a team that handles all these submissions. Everyone was addressing someone called R. It struck me after sometime that I mistakenly addressed you as Kian in the comments I posted in response to yours earlier 😅 Sorry for that

Anyways, a big thank you to you for publishing this, even if quite late 😅 As they say, better late than never. Thank you for your advice and all your kind words as well as your words of caution, wisdom and support. Thank you so much for all your efforts, initiative and service 🧿🙏🏻😇🦋🪷🪬

Hello,

This is similar to what I was thinking of doing. I actually wanted to go to the cops. I had the political backing and contacts in the police to do so. And I was thinking of doing this exactly around the time this comment was posted but I just stumbled across this today so didn’t know my submission was published. Then I thought I should atleast write a social media post using a fake profile but then I thought back to how my submission to Legally India was not posted so this wouldn’t be posted either or would be taken down on complaints (At that point, I didn’t know that Legally India had published my submission since I had stopped reading this and had really lost all hope that it would see the light of day. I genuinely thought my submission was deleted or something) And when I confused in my plans to the family friend I’ve mentioned in the other comments I have left, she talked me out of it so I reluctantly dropped it. However, in the back of my mind I always felt that this was extremely unfair and emotionally debilitating to bear and think about so I tried to shut it out and focus on other areas of my life but I never really stopped thinking this was necessary and needed and important to go though with

As far your observation about him being a serial molester, you’re absolutely on point. There’s no way that a person can be so manipulative, scheming, conniving, lay out his plan in advance, have the confidence and SHEER AUDACITY to do this while his wife and daughters and mom are in the next room and plan his movements and ask him to shift to a location here he wouldn’t be visible, touch me with his hand hidden by his arm, and be so nonchalant, and normal all the while smiling and gaslighting me into thinking nothing was out of the ordinary if he hadn’t already tried this with others and gotten away with it with impunity. He likely felt that he had successfully zeroed down on a weak, vulnerable, timid and pliant target who wouldn’t make a fuss or squeak about this to anyone and all would be swept under the rug once again as would have been the case with his other victims. This is because rapists and sexual abusers, assaulters and molesters always start small and progress towards committing bigger acts each time. This has been well researched and documented in numerous studies. Almost (adding almost just to include exceptions though I’m pretty sure there are none ) No one, not a single rapist has ever committed a full fledged rape as his first crime. They always start small. Then Commit related crimes and then commit rapes. His actions were very precise and well practiced and almost rehearsed like he had done this many times before

Hi,

I understand why you’d feel that way. But lucky for me, I have screenshots of chats, my ride that I booked that day, call recordings since at that time I was using an Android which had automatic call record option turned on, call recordings when I called him to say that I was running late and I’d I needed to change the appointment timings and he had said, “Ohh there’s no need blah blah. Come araam se etc etc. Call recording of when I called him from inside my ride asking for directions since the location that the app had picked up was off by quite a few distance and I couldn’t find his house and he guided me to his house. My mum, when I had told her about the interview had told me to ask him if he had any female interns and she had insisted that this be asked since she was not comfortable with letting me intern in a place with only men. And he had said yes and that he had ▮▮▮ daughters and I would need to come to his home office only since he predominantly worked from there and not his chambers in the High Court and that his daughters would be around when I came over for the interview. This was also on record. And when I entered, in the beginning, he mentioned about his daughters and asked me if I had met them in the living room while they were huddled on the sofa and I told him I saw one. And he said the other 2 women were his wife and mother. I had smiled at them out of courtesy and even at his weird, creepy servant at the start when I was blissfully unaware of the horrors about to unfold later. I have a call recording from that when I called my mother and recounted everything, when I called up my Aunty who’s my family friend and recounted everything to uncle and Aunty, call recording of her telling me that they had talked to my father and advising me to leave for my hostel immediately, not wait for ride to arrive and instead flag down any auto on the road, call recordings of people asking me if I had made home safely, if there had been any communication from him, call recordings of my brother cursing him and threatening him with dire consequences if he dared to contact me again, screenshots of him texting me again, me telling him not to contact me again, photos of his house at that day and time, other videos, photos and recordings, my selfies, him coming to my college, my refusal to attend college the day he came again. My attendance record in which that day is marked absent and I never stayed absent for college since I absolutely loved to attend all my lectures. I would sit on the first benches and loved to take notes. I hated skipping that day since I would then have to ask notes from others. All this and more is recorded, saved and backed up across multiple places. This information is available with multiple members of my family and trusted people in multiple different forms so yes, I have ample proof but I was talked out of going public with this information due to notions of shame and honour especially for a girl in our society. Recordings of my consultations with my therapists, psychologists, counselors whom I sought to make sense of this and to stop the panic attacks I had immediately afterwards. My anxiety was at an all time high at that time, me confining in my trusted family members and friends, diary entries, witness statements from the people I talked to about this, call recordings with even the trustworthy goons my brother had talked to to protect me and destroy him if he ever tried to get close to me again and much much more.

So yes, I have more than enough proof to prove it was him. Moreover, I’d openly challenge this fucktard to go through Narco analysis and lie detector tests if he dared

Hello, OP here

Omg, thank you so so much for such a lovely, kind and thoughtful comment. Thank you so much. Your words truly mean a lot 🙏🏻🪷🌸

Yes, I do agree with most of your points. I realized what you said during extensive therapy. The anger my family felt was obviously out of love, care, affection and concern about me but also why would he target someone so naive, introverted and simple minded? And then I understood that’s exactly why he targeted me. I was introverted, would speak little, the notion of how good and decent girls act was drilled into me since childhood which also, unfortunately, makes you an easy target for molesters and rapists. I literally didn’t know much of the world. My life literally was school to home to school. What little I knew was in the presence of my family. So I was woefully ill prepared to face the real world. But this guy was praised to the high heavens by our teachers, he took guest lectures in our college so obviously a student who’s barely turned an adult would associate him as a teacher and this, a trustworthy and reliable, safe figure. That’s why even whatever little guard I might have had up was down and I became and even easier target.

Also, agreeing to your point, the sheer rage and anger my family felt was also since I come from a powerful family and my family felt that this would atleast somewhat protect me. My community is very strong and powerful as well and usually people stay clear and don’t mess with us since we have no problems in committing murders, going to jail and being violent overall. So the entire community took it as a personal insult and attack. Also, my family also felt that all the hardwork they had done their entire life to get a good education, earn money (all white, unlike some goons we know), work honestly despite immense pressure to engage in corruption, get into and maintain positions of power while acting lawfully despite facing multiple transfers as a result thereof, was to no avail and did not protect their daughter. They felt so hopeless that we could not protect her.

It took me a long time to accept and convince myself that it was truly not my fault. Like deep down, I kept making excuses for this monster that maybe if I had worn a salwar suit with a dupatta across my chest instead of a thick, baggy, oversized loose T-shirt whose sleeves reached my elbows, under which I was wearing a camisole just in case, or if I had waited till my mother was in town to go to his home office, I wouldn’t have faced this. Since that is what some people had murmured and I heard them.

So it took me a long time to actual truly convince myself that none of this was my fault in the slightest. I firmly believe that even if a woman is naked that does not give anyone the right to molest her and it does not mean that she’s asking for it. But since we live in the kind of society we live in, I felt the need to highlight the clothes I was wearing so that some self declared judges of character wouldn’t judge me on that. It was a thick T-shirt and I was wearing a camisole underneath and had a scarf over it like a wrapped dupatta so there’s no way my bra outline was visible in any way, shape or form. I went during broad daylight while his entire family was in the next room. When I came back, it was still broad daylight. I behaved in a decent and respectful manner and no action of mine whether it be from the time I told his servant that I had an appointment when he asked me who I was to the time I left could be remotely construed as “asking” for it.

Anyways, so after lots of counseling, and time spent in therapy, healing activities I was able to actually convince my own inner self and that I was worthy of basic human decency, and respect.

So true, and I completely agree. Moreover, this was the exact dialogue I was repeating to myself since the weekend. The justice system right now is bullshit when it comes to victims of rape and sexual violence. It just prolongs their agony and makes them recount their horror while they’re asked to repeat what they went through for the millionth time while evidences are destroyed, witnesses made to turn hostile, their education and career put on pause, being edged out of meaningful employment, and in some cases being shunned and having a target on their back, their resolution and character being maligned and as assassinated, and in cases of extreme power imbalance, constant harassment and threats, their families being threatened, silenced or killed.

I thought of telling his daughters, atleast the one who practices in the ▮▮▮ and goes around giving interviews ▮▮▮. Part of me wanted to warn her of her father’s true nature so that she could steer clear of him, another part wanted to see if she would take any action against him or atleast call him out and another part wanted me to expose him to his daughters, if they didn’t know what a perverted creep molester and abuser their dad was already. ▮▮▮ A part of me hesitated wondering if she knew about his perversions and creepy behaviour. Since all his actions looked very rehearsed, calculated and practiced. It’s almost impossible to be so precise, surgical, progress everything step by step methodically, and most importantly, to have the SHEER AUDACITY to start touching and molesting someone young enough to be his granddaughter without prior experience and practice. I’m sure he has had many previous victims as well. Anyways, I hope for her sake, she didn’t face these things at the hand of this ugly, fuck faced pos she calls her father.

Part of me wanted to tell this to her ▮▮▮ years ago when she got engaged ▮▮▮. And again around ▮▮▮ years ago when she got married to him. Part of me thought to tell her since she would have a kid and God Forbid if she had a daughter and he tried to molest her. There’s no telling how low these rabid monsters go. Who would suspect the maternal grandfather? Moreover she wouldn’t be able to say or do anything except cry. However, I was talked out of this by my family friend since we didn’t know if we could trust her. What if she tried harder to suppress this info and shield and protect her father?

I agree with everything you said. He deserves to be peeled like an onion till he bleeds out

Thank you so much for your kind words. They truly mean a lot 🙏🏻🪷🌸

I have regained most of confidence back but still this incident has really affected my life and the way I behave in relation with almost everyone else around me. It has definitely affected my formal, informal and professional relationships immensely and the constant cloud of fear that hangs in the air whenever I meet someone new.

Looking back even I don’t know how I managed to keep a calm, neutral tone and face when inside I felt like I was going to pass out. I was just listening to my intuition and following whatever my inner voice was telling me to do. Later on, I learnt that Flight or Fight are not just the only Fear Responses. There are actually 4. The remaining being Freeze and Fawn. And these 2 are seen most commonly in women. Many a times women will freeze and will not be able to respond to the sudden shock of sexual violence they encounter since their brain shuts down. The amount of cortisol that floods the body in such situations is very high and dangerous and so the brain will numb the response to preserve the body. Many women are unable to even move an inch. The other response is Fawn, wherein the victim will try to do as the perpetrator says and try not to anger him so that he doesn’t hurt her more. This is also seen and documented in victims of sexual assault and violence. Especially in human trafficking when they’re out in public yet the woman doesn’t ever ask for help since she feels she’ll survive and live if she follows and doesn’t want to invite his wrath and more harm upon herself. This is why many women just go along with whatever is being asked of them in a paralyzed daze.

Well there still was the underlying current amongst my family members of these notions of honour. The community I come from is very orthodox, conservative and violent. Honour Killing is very rampant and common. And in this case where the family knows that it wasn’t their daughter’s fault and since there is no basis for honour killing, since I did not elope with a guy of another caste or someone of the same caste who did not have my family’s approval or whatever, if my family was not supportive, I would’ve been married off at the earliest since I was technically an adult. So I would’ve been married off and not allowed to continue my education. I would be recounted as an example of not letting your daughters study too much or send your daughters to college, lest in another city/state. I would’ve been passed on as an inconvenient burden to my husband and I would be his headache now. Of course, it would’ve been an arranged marriage.

And this is still rampant. What’s more, I heard it myself. A meeting of all the elders in the family, our close friends, respected heads of our community who hold high positions, was called. One elderly man straight up asked my father, “Why not marry her off?” My father was a bit startled and taken aback but put his down and was firm in his stance that she’ll first complete her education before I even think of marriage. She should have a basic degree first so she can support herself later if needed. And though it was unspoken but I knew that I was lucky enough 🧿 to not be married off against my wishes. But we all know how familial pressure is. Especially in large families where 20 different people have an opinion on your life and seek to control it