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Some years into the profession now, and I’ve had my fair share of toxic bosses. But my first one? Truly a ▮▮▮.
Background:
She was a Senior Associate then. Competent at her work. As a mentor though, she was terrible. Work would be dumped on me with zero context, zero guidance. When I tried to figure things out on my own, I’d be met with absolute hellfire.
Her logic was simple: “My seniors never helped me. I figured it out on my own. You should too.”
Fair enough, mistakes happened, I owned them. The berating was understandable because it was understandable.
What was worse was the silent treatment that followed. Days of being ignored, no communication, no feedback, until suddenly everything was “normal” again. And then the cycle would repeat.Eventually, I moved to another firm with better mentors and a healthier environment.
Now:
I’m now in-house as a Senior Legal Counsel. She’s a Partner at another firm. And her firm is one of our regular external counsels forming a major part of her book.
The moment she realised I’d be her point of contact, I got a text: the usual polite small talk, followed by “hope whatever happened in the past is in the past and won’t affect our work.”
No, ma’am.
It’s very much my time to rain hellfire and make you miserable, of course before I take my business elsewhere.
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Manifesting that job in 2030, when I know I am a better lawyers and can contribute better to my organisation than I am doing currently.