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The problem with these situations is that the people who are jealous of you (stupidly, because you're not asking to be treated like an object) will egg you on to get confrontational. That is not your responsibility. Your responsibility is to protect yourself. Be pleasant. Make very good excuses and stay out of his orbit. Ideally, you do not want him to get angry at you but you also don't want him to take liberties with you. Focus on your work and try to do it well. Don't undermine your own intellect or labor to make jealous people feel better. His attentions are not your fault. He may be favoring you for the wrong reasons but that's on him. You don't need to tell people you are worthless because you are not.
The world is full of powerful men who treat women like playthings and people who then blame women. This was a horrible experience but if you learn to trust your instincts and protect yourself, it will help you in the future. Sometimes the only way is to beg another safer senior for work or to quit citing a health or familty problem. But those are last ditch measures. If you can manage the situation and get through it without harming yourself, then that is a good way.
Also I request the moderator to close the thread if possible.