I will be joining as an A0 at a firm next year. I've had a negligible social life and have avoided social interaction during my college life. I am a husk of my former, joyful self. College life broke me somehow. I know that having social anxiety while being a lawyer is ironic. But somehow I'm still working in this field, but struggling. I lack basic conversational skills and I struggle to make friends. Is there anyone who can relate to my situation or even guide me? I've considered counselling but never had the time for it.
As someone still struggling with this, I think I can empathise. Interviews especially, I used to panic and go silent. It was weird even for those taking the interviews. Fortunately, managed to get into a good firm and all of my weaknesses became strengths in that firm. Ours is not a sales job ( at least in the initial 7-8 years); as an associate, you will do well if you are willing to work hard, are diligent and treat your profession as a โcallingโ. Even when I struggled to verbally communicate with my senior partner, my emails were clear and carefully crafted, and I did my best in paying attention to the smallest details in the transaction documents. It has worked wonders for me in my career so far. You have already managed to get into a firm. So hold your chin high and do not worry about your perceived weaknesses. Along the way, you will find allies; you will find love.
Recently, two separate shrinks diagnosed me with Aspergerโs syndrome or being in the spectrum (ASD). A labeling helps, I guess, in making sense of some life events and silencing that nagging question deep inside- whatโs wrong with me. Other than that, nothing in life has changed. Even when struggling, one adapts to become functional in the circumstances one is in. My next phase of struggle has started with the expectations of socialising for business development. I think I will manage- you play the cards you are dealt with. And of course, in the interviews I take now, I ensure that anxiety during interviews is not counted against the candidates.
Firstly, I want to acknowledge your courage in sharing your feelings and experiences. Remember, you're at the start of an exciting journey, and it's natural to feel a mix of emotions, including anxiety. You're not alone in this; many of us have faced similar challenges, especially at the beginning of our careers.
Here's a little secret that you'll come to realize as you progress in life: deep down, everyone feels insecure and anxious to some extent. The degree varies, but these feelings are a part of the human experience. It's how we address and manage them that makes the difference.
The legal profession, especially in a law firm setting, can indeed be demanding and might amplify feelings of anxiety. It's essential to recognize this and consider what's best for you at this stage. Your well-being, both mental and emotional, is paramount.
I strongly recommend looking into cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). It's a practical approach that can help you address and manage anxious thoughts right from the outset. It's never too early or too late to seek support, and taking this step can be transformative. I would recommend that you find time for this given its importance as you start a new journey.
Remember, every challenge you face is an opportunity for growth. Believe in yourself, and know that you have the strength and resilience to navigate this journey. Remember the people who care for you will always be rooting for you so hold them close at all times!!
Recently, two separate shrinks diagnosed me with Aspergerโs syndrome or being in the spectrum (ASD). A labeling helps, I guess, in making sense of some life events and silencing that nagging question deep inside- whatโs wrong with me. Other than that, nothing in life has changed. Even when struggling, one adapts to become functional in the circumstances one is in. My next phase of struggle has started with the expectations of socialising for business development. I think I will manage- you play the cards you are dealt with. And of course, in the interviews I take now, I ensure that anxiety during interviews is not counted against the candidates.
p.s.- tell us in two years how you are faring.
Here's a little secret that you'll come to realize as you progress in life: deep down, everyone feels insecure and anxious to some extent. The degree varies, but these feelings are a part of the human experience. It's how we address and manage them that makes the difference.
The legal profession, especially in a law firm setting, can indeed be demanding and might amplify feelings of anxiety. It's essential to recognize this and consider what's best for you at this stage. Your well-being, both mental and emotional, is paramount.
I strongly recommend looking into cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). It's a practical approach that can help you address and manage anxious thoughts right from the outset. It's never too early or too late to seek support, and taking this step can be transformative. I would recommend that you find time for this given its importance as you start a new journey.
Remember, every challenge you face is an opportunity for growth. Believe in yourself, and know that you have the strength and resilience to navigate this journey. Remember the people who care for you will always be rooting for you so hold them close at all times!!