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Can not-so-good-looking girls even hope to date great-looking guys?
Assuming, but not conceding, that this post is legitimate, my answer would be yes. Not-so-good-looking guys have, and can, end up with very attractive women, and the same is true for the opposite. Attractive men are not always vain, and definitely do like women who are more than just a pretty face. They look for far deeper aspects to your identity than how you look; your personality, presence, sense of humor, kindness, dedication, warmth, principles, etc. are all traits that attract a person to you, be it platonic or romantic. Those, in the long run, are more important to someone who wants to have a long term relationship with someone. Even for casual sex, vibing with someone who you relate to is way better than chilling with some boring/fake/annoying individual, even if they're smoking hot.
Secondly, you may look at yourself as an ugly duckling but pls, that may also not be true. It's very easy to fall into this spiral of self loathing and lacking the confidence of someone who you'd consider to be conventionally attractive. Learn to love yourself dude. Having a mom bod is normal and theres nothing unattractive about it. Its a normal thing. And if you really don't like how you look, improve on your body and work on it. Join a gym, work out, eat fit etc.
With respect to your query and issues surrounding your self confidence - I would summarize by saying 1. Yes, conventionally attractive dudes can also like women who are not conventionally attractive; and 2. You look fine as per your description. Relax
As a parting note however, don't have work place dating/sexual relationships for Christ's sake. It's weird on way too many fucking levels and can easily escalate into POSH, either by you or him. Like it's especially serious or awkward at the workplace. My suggestion - please refrain from fucking your junior of all people. Just put yourself out there and get a dating app like I don't know man. It's risky, your degree of separation as colleagues and friends/lovers will bleed into one another, it'll complicate things between you two, and there's no guarantee that you'll make it out in one piece.
I hope this answers your question and you aren't going to do something dumb. Also please just get a dating app don't fantasize about your junior.
Don’t want to demotivate you but your chances are even lower if he is on dating apps. Even guys who are on the skinny side of the spectrum manage to get 100+ matches so yeah, you have to be better than all the other women that are already interested in him
Even the hottest guys I know, don't have 100 matches.
Women wants to have a relationship with an older dad body guy, men wants to just have sex with older cougars. Not a relationship.
Looks and physical appearance is number 1 priority for most guys. Because at the end of the day, they are the ones initiating most of sex and relationship activities. They have to feel attracted to do anything.
So, he may not be attracted to you for a long term relationship. But short time hookup - well yes because it's incredibly difficult to get for men, because of which any girl is a good girl.
There are some rare hot guys who are solely attracted by your behavior etc. If he is one of them - good luck.
Why did you censor my comment? It was not woke, but honest facts.
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Max he will say no. He is a guy.
You won't face sexual harassment complaints and rape cases for asking out. You are a women and is legally protected to a great extent.
Don't be your worst enemy.
Get inspired by his activities and try emulating them and feel better about yourself.
You know small things can really add up. Your improved health will make you feel better and happier.
Take a little care, treat yourself with self care, well tailored clothes etc.
Have the energy which would attract people you want in your life.
This negative energy and these statements where you are not thinking highly of yourself will dissuade positive people from approaching you.
I am rooting for you. Good luck!
2. Make time for exercise. Get disciplined with your diet.
3. All good things come your way if you truly follow 1 and 2.
Just use a dating app.