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Over the last three years, she has been verbally abusive towards me, my friends as well as my immediate family members. I have been recording phone calls for more than two years where she is using foul and insulting language, and shouting at me. On two occasions she has slapped me across the face. During the second slapping incident, while I was trying to stop her from doing something dangerous, she dug her nails into my right wrist, which caused a noticeable injury. During one of her abusive episodes, I have used foul language for her once, but I have never hit or slap or attack her physically.
I have been ignoring her abusive behaviour because I acknowledge that my job has had an adverse impact on her career. However, I repeatedly ask myself for how long should continue to take the abuse lying down.
Currently, my wife is going through an episode of severe paranoia that someone is hacking her mobile and laptop. She has destroyed two of her phones, bought a new iPhone, and destroyed it after four days. She is currently in India, and thinks that her mother's phone is also hacked into. Today her aunt called me to inform me that my wife is hitting her mother. Over the past couple of years, she has hit her mother on a few occasions. I am afraid that if I go to India, sooner or later, I may be subjected to physical abuse again.
Given this situation, I see these two options in front of me:
1. serve a legal notice to her that such continued physical attacks from her, on anyone, would result in the initiation of divorce proceedings from my end
2. directly go for divorce on the grounds of mental cruelty
I understand it is my decision to choose between the two options. However, I want to ask what would be the best way to move forward, whether there are any other things that must be considered, is there any other option. I request your help to arrive at a decision.