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Second, I escalated to the partner. Gave supporting evidence. Including twitter thread from someone who had quit and basically mentions everything this person has done. Partner "tried" mediating. I mention "tried" in quotes because it felt more like a you have misunderstood him, the practice is demanding etc etc. My take-away was he would rather lose an SA who has joined the team and has been working for 3 months, than a PA who has been in the team for 1 year and caused 3 attritions within that year (all people directly reporting onto him).
Once second was clear, I knew I would quit. So I did and moved out. I did mention and flag this guy in my exit interview. I am told he never got a promotion later because of that and had to quit and get partnership in another firm. Long story shirt, he is an equity partner today in a T2 firm and people continue to quit under him.
The morale of the story is, control what you can control. If the atmosphere is not sustainable, quit.
We have no clue who is in the wrong but we know who is spending hours plotting.
There have been attacks on this very platform on many individuals in this profession.
I think this lays bare what goes into some of the obvious malicious attempt to discredit some.
If you need a good answer - if its unbearable - walk out. If it crosses a line - formally complain.
Keep it simple. You're not doing anyone any favours with seeking help solve your grudges.
This line of thinking was what gave gundas business. You're not better if you go through.
I also started recording instructions on email / mst to ensure that there is no confusion.
This may not be the best solution if you are a rebel and are strong enough with having a constant tussle. In which case, you report the toxic behaviour to partner and then HR. But keep in mind that you will continue working with this person till the time any action (if any) is taken. So for this long period nothing would have changed and it's your call if getting that person reprimanded (forget such person will change his/her ways) is worth it.