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Try to stay away from her. Let her own karma hit her back.
Trust me, throughout my 29 years of life, I've never seen anyone escape their karma.
She'll face her own karma. You're probably facing yours.
Try to be a bigger person and let it slide this time. You'll not be ashamed of yourself later.
What was the age difference between the two of you? The only reason why this is relevant is to gauge how much of influence did you have in the first place to do this entire handholding seva from CLAT to PPO? If you had at that point in time, to hypothetically say some 4-5 odd years of experience, why were you even hanging out with a CLAT aspirant whi was either a minor, or barely out of her teens? NOT IMPLYING ANYTHING, but the matter of fact is she was always going to be immature for the two of you to have common life goals, even if you are not considerably senior to her.
If you're max upto 2-3 years her senior, take it from a bro with a few (prematurely) graying hair, you do NOT have as much influence as you think you do bhai
If you're more than 3 years her senior, don't bother wasting you're time on such a childish, bitter, and vindictive individual. Tu kuch bhi bol, jo bande is ladki ke saath ghumna chahte hai, woh ghumenge, saath saath teri udate rahenge
Mundi niche kar, kaam pe lag ja If that girl tries to come back, nip it in the bud, expressly
She might not be a lady, you will need to stay a gentleman for your own sake
Good point
I guess it was your dad's chamber as you are from JGLS?
If he lacks the control over his emotions that it takes to be her colleague, then he is going to create drama and make a fool out of himself in trying to lash out at her. It is extremely unprofessional.
He can't 'make her leave'. The idea is vindictive. This is all very filmy. If she cheated on him then he should certainly withdraw his friendship and warn any friends who want to date her in the future but that's all.
If he didn't have expectations then why is he here telling us what all he did for her? How it is relevant unless the implication is that she owes him something in return.
Au contraire, I've been the cheatee not the cheater but unlike you, I am not deliberately a jerk. Egging someone on to hurt someone else because toxic masculinity is disgusting. Check your assumptions and try to be a better person. Oh and before you make snide remarks about people who were cheated on, it was great in the long run because it freed me from a bad relationship.
This is not 'running away'. It is giving himself space to heal instead of adding to the drama she started. Hurting her won't make him feel better.
I'm losing my faith in humanity every single day.
God bless that guy!
2.if he finds it difficult to be around her, why should he leave, why should he not make her leave, but telling everyone what she did? Is running away th solution? Also, what if he's into a super niche practice which is there in only that city and they are bound to cross paths?
3. Also I don't know why you assumed that he'll be bitter for not dating him, when he clearly mentioned that she cheated on him and treated him disrespectfully. But yes, i understand that doing this might make him feel like a bad person.
But leaving the firm or the city doesn't make sense and also it's not very easy for niche practice areas. As he mentioned, there will be a pay cut.
But yes, your perspective is well appreciated, just that it's full of false assumptions and probably personal biases.
Not kidding.
Sounds like the guy should run away instead of making her run away.
Interesting.
Almost sounds like someone who has cheated on the guy.
I made that person resign from my team and we both moved on.
The best decision of my life. Saved a lot of mental agony and awkward situations.
You sound like a good man. I hope you make the right choices. Vengeance might taste sweet, but it may cause you a lot of guilt and self hate.
But it'll not be immoral or unethical if you tell everyone the truth about what happened and what kind of person she is.
The decision is yours to make.
But you situation is really sad. Sending you hugs and wishes.
God bless kiddo.
The boy does not own the girl. If he finds it hard to be around her, he can find another job or a different city office. Anyone who can open doors for the girl can surely open doors for himself. If he can't, then maybe he is mistaken about why she got her PPO.
Law firms are full of betraying snakes. His colleagues will survive another one. The main thing to do is to avoid turning into a bitter jerk who tries to attack a junior professionally for not dating him personally. The impulse is human but carrying it out will make the boy someone he may not want to become. Leave the firm and maybe the city, baby boy.
Better for the guys mental health to move on and let it go, personal grudges only ruin your mental health
I went through a bitter breakup months after the death of my father. I decided to move away, seclude myself and overwork to keep me from grieving any of it.
Did it work? Yes. But I lost so many friends and a couple of years over it.
My only advice is - do what protects your mental peace and your interests. It is no longer 'our' interest so why should you settle for a paycut?
You can ask for a change in location if the firm has offices in multiple cities. This seems to be the easiest way to deal with the situation without active confrontation. Or else, cut the cancer right at the base.
To ease your mind, there are plenty of jobs out there. You are only inconveniencing her for a while. That, to me, seems to be a fair trade.
Ciao! May your heart heal soon and heal well :)
By your logic agar bandi suicide kar degi aur bande ka bhi pura career khatam ho jayega that would be fair bc both destroyed each other's careers.
Conclusion - don't interfere with anyone's career and move on.
Par qismat mai dard likha tha,
Mohabbat kaise na hoti.
The guy literally hand held his girl from clat to the point of getting a PPO in a t1 law firm where he's working.
The girl after getting the PPO cheated on the guy and told him to fake off and gave the guy the worst time of his life. It ended on very bitter terms from the girl's side.
Now the guy is thinking if he should tell his close friends and colleagues about this girl and make sure that she doesn't join as everyone will look down upon her because she did the ugliest things. And he's performing his duty to save his colleagues from this betraying snake.
Or he should learn to live with that girl as his junior and let his mental peace go into the garbage can
Or should he look for another job for himself which will lead to a paycut.
What do people do in such situation? How should that guy go through this?
Seeking serious advice from the wise audience.