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Many other cases like this as well...☹️
I don't see any fault here
Women, by women, I mean straight (80%) of women, want a man who knows how to behave like one. You don't need muscles for that, but you need to take charge. You must be assertive, in control of your situations, playful with her, and make her comfortable enough to ensure she behaves like a kid in front of you. How to be that person she swoons over? Take care of yourself, in a conversation, speak less and let her speak more, but carefully understand her mannerisms. Be extremely playful, make her laugh, tease her most times, but also rebuke her when she is being extremely annoying. Be in charge of your surroundings, make sure other men respect you—don't be a pushover. Do not seek her validation; don't be accessible all the time. Let her miss you a bit. When you do come, make her feel good. Be unpredictable, be flirty, make it very clear that you want her romantically, and then vanish. Get back to work, make her feel good, but always maintain the mystery, unpredictability, and she must at all times be slightly scared of you.
Now, this sounds like a lot of things, but it isn't. Seduction is easy; you don't need to be extremely good-looking or muscular. You just need to understand how women think and what they want. Be attentive, be observant, and you will understand.
PS: Be good in intimate situations, excel in foreplay, and take it slow. Be in control and unpredictable. As soon as you two start getting intimate, and if you are really good, she will become obsessed with you. And when I say obsessed, I mean it. In other words, be like James Bond or me.
I've always had a very good luck with women due to this and I've always acted in the manner as described above. Almost every girl I've ever been with has been out of my league and I've impressed them so yeah guys take note .. this stuff works.
Looks are not irrelevant, but they're not that important (for men). It mostly functions to open the door - if you are good looking, it's easier to go up and talk and they will initially be more open and welcoming. But if you're charming and confident looks become irrelevant very quickly. What is important is how you make the girl feel. That has to do with emotions, not reason (which is why the girls prefer the "dumb jock" (who probably isn't that dumb actually - physical and emotional intelligence are just as important as analytical intelligence/IQ) instead of the guy who shares the same interests).
Even an initial dislike of you is fine - it's better than indifference or boredom. It can easily become interest (which is why the girl always hates the boy at first in Hindi movies).
"Being attractive" is a state of mind - an attitude - more than anything else.
"Hooking up" or "seducing" is a social skill - it's no different to learning a language or learning to drive a car. At first, you're terrible at it and slow, and constantly have to think about what you are doing and making mistakes, and slowly you practice and get better and smoother, till you can speak and drive on instinct and think about what you're going to have for dinner while driving. It's exactly the same - towards the end of my single days, I could go on a date and hook up at the end of it entirely on autopilot, while thinking about work or what I was planning for the weekend or whatever. Just the same way you can drive home from work and not even consciously remember large parts of the drive.
To the OP - you want to be more attractive to girls and hook up more? Go and spend a lot of time talking to a lot of girls. Don't immediately think about hooking up with them - think about having fun with them, teasing them, joking with them and making them want to hang out with you. Think less about logic and more about "fun" in your conversations. If she's laughing at what you're saying and simultaneously punching you in the arm in mock anger because you're teasing her, you're doing it right (do not insult her - this is meant to be fun, not serious). If you get good at that, I promise plenty of women will be interested in you.
Oh and never ignore a girl's friends - their opinion is HUGELY important to the girl and it can make or break your chances. You want her friends to approve of you and to be asking her why she hasn't hooked up with you yet, and telling her she should do it before she loses you to another girl.
Note that here, the attitude and the confidence and the willingness to engage in violence (in the right circumstances) is as important as big muscles or knowing karate or whatever - that's not useful unless you can apply it.
Toxic boys 101.
No money no honey
Good boys go to heaven
Bad boys go to Bangkok
Mods please dont mark trollish
2. Become successful
3. Be rich
your looks cease to matter, you will have your pick (although I would now say based on experience that going for the best looking women alone is a terrible life choice, but you won't listen anyway)
seriously, I was in your situation 15 years back
Just know that your only way out is to be rich, successful and in charge of your life
Women can't help but be hypergamous, its hard coded