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What are the games that partners play to push a person out?
Why are few people targeted?
If you find yourself at the receiving end of such incident, how should one get even with the partner? (I hate my partners so much i could literally kill him and everyone associated with him but can't cause he doesn't mean enough for me to go to jail).
Let this be the guide for any junior lawyer who might be in a similar situation/will find themselves in a similar situation. Thanks in advance.
I'll start with a few:
1) stop giving you any work
2) cutting bonuses
3) stopping promotions
4) giving unnecessarily poor performance rating
5) either being completely harsh and shouting in front of everyone with the intention of humiliating or avoiding any contact at all, stonewalling, ghosting
6) threats of PIP
7) getting HR involved in any random complaint
8) torturing you and telling people in the team to not talk to you (in order to control how others perceive you and so that the victim can't talk about their ordeal and control the perspective)
I am someone who has been through all of this (literally everything) at a senior level. It is a zero sum game, and you can never win, or never beat the system. You have to just swallow your pride and move on. It takes a special kind of nerve to be mean and caustic-and that's what partners are. Barring maybe 1 out of 10 partners, the rest of them are a bully in some form or the other-and the bully always wins-he/she never loses. It is the law of the jungle but with sophisticated weaponry in terms of intellect, clothing etc. If you are someone that the partner wants or likes then even if you commit a crime-it will be overlooked-that is the system. If you are a rainmaker partner then even sexual harassment is overlooked to make sure that you are protected.
Unless you belong to any power circle which can dislodge the partner, without inflicting self harm upon yourself, I would suggest that you just move on from where you are. I'm giving you a practical take on the system, and how it works. Whether you accept it or not is your look out.