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2. Resourceful- Everyone prefers someone who "brings to the table", so yes it matters for you to work atleast and make a living and not dump everything on the girl and be her sugar baby. However it does not matter how much you make. Female partners in several t1 firms are known to marry PAs/ Counsels making half the money they make. If a girl is saying she wants to marry a millionaire/ crore"pati", she is not the right girl and will suck off that money before you know. But guys like to generalise all women as this.
3. Time- There's a difference between working 24 7 and not having time to spend, and having 4 hours apart from sleep time and drinking with the boys and then saying you got no time. Girls want time to be spend with you. Girls also work hard for several hours and understand the value of time, and if you love her, she will even give excuses to accommodate you. Sadly many guys don't value this.
However, for marriage or long term relationships they care about resources more
If planning for marriage :-
1. You need really good job (1L per month or more)
2. Living in good city
3. Car (Swift minimum )
4. Have calm nerves and can handle mood swings
5. Doesnt talk or lash out much but a patient listener
6. Is able to keep your office stress to yourself
7. Can cook
8. Decent looking
9. Doesnt not come from toxic family if staying with parents OR you live separately and visit them on vacations / festivals only.
10. Is not possessive / jealous , helicopter spouse and questions her every move!
Thats for marriage.
If dating, I think women prefer looks first, popularity second , and resourcefulness third. They just want to have fun in those cases. Fun requires money and time.
Sir you are mistaken. That all is necessary to get married if you are middle class , upper middle class or higher class.
70% of our population are rural and uneducated people and THEY are the reason of population explosion. They get married and reproduce at fast pace without giving a damn about consequences.
NONE of my friends are married But EVERY person who has worked as "driver or cleaner" in my home married in 2021/2022 and now have a kid !
First, anybody earning more than a lakh per month isn't a middle class individual financially in this country.
Secondly, most of these things are luxuries and not essentialities for marriage or leading a happy life.
Thirdly, it is true that the bulk of the population belongs to lower income groups. However, the entire economy actually rests on them being exploited by people like us so as to live our lives comfortably. So the least that you can do is not pass off snide remarks to them, because our fancy lives depend on them remaining uneducated and making poor life choices.
https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/business/india-business/people-earning-rs-25000-per-month-fall-in-top-10-of-wage-earners-in-india-report/articleshow/91694940.cms