I recently joined a T1 law firm in Mumbai and I saw this very cute guy in the orientation sessions, I tried to get closer to him but in vain. After our induction, I keep seeing him during lunch everyday, try to give him a little hints by making eye contact, smiling at him. He is not retaliating though as such, he is chummy with everyone and chats with the whole lunch room except me. I know this is a little off topic, but I hope he notices me someday. Any tips? Also is it a bad idea to date a law firm colleague? We are different teams though.

I am dying here, everyday during lunch I am just flustered and constantly thinking about it.

bruh its not the same with girls and guys. If a girl makes up her mind that a person will not be her date, that person will never become one, whatever they may do. (gym/ money etc.) But it's much easier with a guy, this chick has to just ask him out and if he doesnt have a gf or a controlling mommy, he will 100% say yes. I am even surprised she's asking this.

Why don't you do something - Ask him out on a date. Tell him that you have feelings for him?

I worked at a law firm before moving in house. I asked out my then boyfriend, now we are expecting a baby. If I hadn't asked out. Some other woman would have got him.

It's not rocket science to ask out a person whom you have feelings for. It's 21st Century even a woman can make the first move. Maximum (for the worst) you will get a rejection. Men cannot assume things just by hints. Because so called hints - are just extra niceness for many guys.

I mean gay dating is hard as it is! Atleast you know he is into guys too! That’s a win. Don’t sweat it too much, given the law firm life, you both are bound to stumble onto each-other, you can just approach start a conversation and see where it goes! All the best! (PS- it’s not a bad idea to date a colleague, just be safe from office politics)

In the past, I witnessed a similar scenario play out. My sister, who conveniently had the hots for another girl—who also happened to be someone’s sister—was in quite the conundrum. After much internal debate and self-doubt, she turned to her ever-wise, perpetually-available, and supremely caring brother (yours truly) for advice on such heart matters. Embracing my role as the doting sibling, I reassured her that these things often have a way of sorting themselves out. Plus, since I knew the brother of the object of my sister's affection, I eagerly offered to facilitate a chat with her. A family and friends gathering provided the perfect backdrop for this talk. But, plot twist! As I approached her, it seemed she was also keen on striking up a conversation with me. We quickly found common ground: both of us were skeptical about Jim from 'The Office' (US version) being the knight-in-shining-armor he's made out to be. We agreed that 'Fight Club' might just be the best film adaptation (even trumping The Godfather) and debated the cryptic ending of '2001: A Space Odyssey.' But what took center stage was our mutual appreciation of my sister's sweetness, agreeing she deserved only the best. Thus began what can only be described as the most whirlwind and chaotic romance of the 21st century. It went strong... for a week. Then, both my sister and the brother of my week-long love interest (who, incidentally, was an old pal) discovered our liaison, leading to a family saga worthy of a prime-time soap opera. Suddenly, I was the villain! Can you imagine? My sister no longer speaks to her "loving" brother, my old friend acts like I'm invisible (claiming I exploited our friendship to woo his sister), and my fleeting flame? She's blocked me everywhere and conveniently relocated for her master's. Probably thinks I'm worse than Jim now.

So here I am, trying to make a living and watching life drift by, wondering... is "Fight Club" really that great?