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The cosmetic surgery industry wouldn't be booming if looks didn't matter.
You need to change your outlook to life.
No one owes you anything.
Focus on self care and try to get your self worth from yourself and not others around you.
You can make very small changes just by changing your attitude/approach to life and those around you.
The main source of your pain is because in a group of people you think, "Hey there, look who has arrived". Ditch that.
Instead think, "Look over there, how amazing you are".
Then see the magic.
Your attractiveness is not just a genetic lottery. You can do a lot to become more attractive - I would say 90% of it can be cultivated especially because I assume you have the money to invest though time may be an issue
5 things you can do in the next 6 months:
1. Get a personal trainer, incentivise him based on results
2. Speak to a therapist and heal your traumas (so your natural confidence can shine through)
3. Read this book called Open Her - its on kindle and it explains the difference facets to a man's character that are attractive to women, from the perspective of women. Good news is that you can work on those facets of your character
4. Consult a woman friend who understands fashion to guide you to build a nice wardrobe
5. invest in hiring a good photographer to shoot your dating profile photos
Understand that you feel unattractive because you do not invest in yourself - the moment you start investing, your self worth start going up
If you have high self esteem you will attract others with high self esteem who will find you attractive. If you have a deeply held belief that you are not attractive nobody will find you attractive. It is very important to believe that attractiveness is a journey and you get there with some focus and effort.
I wish you all the best.
Be approachable to others for work and help them out. People will start noticing you gradually.
Reach out to girls from your batch. You'll be surprised how easy it is to talk to them after college.
Keep at it. Have faith in yourself. Noone is perfect.
I am a female, I've had some experience of it as a teen where I had insecurities about my appearance despite the fact that most people have given me positive compliments. Over time, I have realized beauty is extremely subjective, comes from years of conditioning by media and society, and not that important in the list of other things. Especially in the legal field, I think it does not play that a big role but I am guessing in you social and dating life, it might. But at the end of the day, I guess it is okay to have people who value us for us, rather than our face and body, so losing out those people should be fine right?