In modern professional life, the capacity to build a family is not some romantic abstraction; it is closely tied to competence. Those who are capable tend, over time, to acquire not only financial security but also control over their schedules, and with that the ability to delegate, to buy time, and to create space for life beyond work.

Evidence of this is visible even within the most demanding Tier-1 firms. There are senior partners—sixteen years into practice—raising children, living well, and remaining professionally formidable. Many of them are driving BMW's and Mercs. Some are already being chauffeured in Maybach's. Their lives are not miracles; they are outcomes of sustained competence.

By contrast, there exists a quieter cohort: individuals unable to secure or sustain meaningful work, living in permanent uncertainty, often dependent on their parents well into adulthood. This is not bad luck masquerading as injustice; it is usually the absence of aptitude meeting the realities of a competitive profession.

The conclusion is uncomfortable but necessary. One should enter—and remain in—this profession only with the conviction that one has the temperament and ability to build a complete life within it. If marriage or children feel impossible because of the job, it is not the job that is slowly destroying you. It is the mismatch.