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As someone who was in your position in law school I just have one thing to say. The best revenge is just being happy without them.
This is of course easier said than done.
If you're feeling depressed to the point that you are finding it difficult to function I would recommend that you get help. Bangalore has no shortage of resources you can use. Just walk into a Nimhans. Get treatment. It could involve a short course of treatment, it could mean therapy. Work on yourself and realise that your self worth is not dependant on the acceptance of others.
Of course it will hurt to find the people you are close to don't feel the same way back. But this is just a minor setback. You have a long life to live and will meet many more interesting and nice people who will value you for what you bring to the table. More importantly you got a lot of shit to do while in law school. You need to focus on that.
There are plenty of good people among the seniors and the juniors. Try to get involved in campus activities. One thing I realised I really enjoyed was spending time outside the campus in my final two years. Try to join activities with like minded people. Learn a language or an instrument. Make time for yourself outside law school.
It is very easy to imagine that law school is the world. It really isn't. There is a lot of stuff happening outside.
If things are feeling out of hand. Talk to someone you trust immediately. Don't let it fester inside. Call home. Reconnect with old friends from school if you have to. Don't worry things will get better.
It’s not about them - it’s about you and your approach to life. Please focus on yourself, your fitness, your studies and your needs. Joke around, stay in touch with people (including the people who bitch behind your back), make plans and take leads in college events, spend time in library - do research or help people out, do what makes ^you^ happy. Take things like back biting, bitching behind backs in stride and learn to ignore them. This are short term games and people will forget in times to come.
Life is not a zero sum game, and it’s not a short term game either. You please play a long term game - where you have character, integrity, honesty and values. Don’t engage in this shit, offline college offers you so many opportunities to make friends in events and conferences, and Bengaluru in general is a gem of a city. Please keep in touch with people, ignore the noise and - never forget it’s about you!
So much to do, so many people to meet, you study in the best university in the country and have so much to offer to aspirants, to other law schools, to community - if you care about three people (who happen to be young and misguided about priorities in life), that’s just doing yourself and the world some sort of injustice.
Please find solace in books, please create a space for values in life, and please go out and meet with people. You will find we live in a lonely world, and friendship more often than not is appreciated a lot :)