We want LI to be one of the friendliest places on the internet, where lawyers and law students help each other with their career related queries and occasionally discuss other stuff that might affect their lives too. In other words:
1. Be kind, respectful and helpful to each other.
2. Be bona fide, truthful, genuine and curious.
3. Assume the best intention of others.
Therefore, in using the site, you must agree to do your best to uphold these community guidelines.
Note that what you find here is written and moderated by anonymous people on the internet.
Therefore everything you read here is very likely unverified, rumour, speculation and/or downright false.
In continuing to read anything here, you must therefore agree not to take anything you read here as factual and that you will exercise due caution, diligence and common sense before acting on any information you may come across here.
You also agree to report any inaccurate or malicious comments with the buttons. Moderators take action within 24 hours, as required and appropriate under law.
Our full terms and conditions apply too.
Do you solemnly agree to all of the above?
When I saw this question, I grimaced, fearing that the comments would be negative towards the junior girls. However, I am relieved to see the comments calling out the predatory nature of senior boys. 17, 18 and 19 year olds are impressionable. Entering a strange new environment of law school is daunting. Boys at my uni would carefully evaluate the physical appearance and dresses of fresher girls. They had the galls to speak out loud that after seeing the same old faces for months on end, it's exciting to see new girls. It's almost like they are hungry. Its Creepy. Its scary. The lascivious nature of the comments is obvious. It wasn't some harmless, fun boy-talk. It was pure objectification of young girls who were full of anticipation about studying law in NLU and excelling in their field.
Then these boys would help the fresher girls 'navigate the law school'. Some were really genuine and kind, thanks ONLY to them. But most others were excited to associate with new girls. And these naive girls barely knew the person. It's hard to decipher a senior's intention in a few encounters. Of course, the seniors would empathise with the juniors and appear all wise and intellectual. And isn't one of the coolest things for a new junior in college is to be within the sacred, enigmatic inner circles of seniors? Having a 'smart', 'kind' and 'intellectual' senior as an 'ally' and a 'safe harbour' in a strange environment is comforting. Then the power dynamics come into play. This whole power dynamics thing forms the essence of toxicity in relations.
I have a general observation here. Most of these senior boys I talked about would make the junior girl feel as if she is vulnerable and extremely important to him, cute but too pure for this world, in need of guidance from a senior boy and lost without the guidance of the said boy. She has potential but that potential can be untapped only with the boy's gracious help. Then the classic gaslighting follows.
I literally feel anxious, regretful, dazed and and panicky writing this.
Girls, please don't rush into any relationship in college. If the relationship turns sour, some men have a tendency to foul mouth women and talk the nastiest of things among their bro circle. This is traumatic. You will have to face that person for the next 3-4 years. The friend circle of senior men is no less traumatising in such cases. Talk to seniors, make friends with them. Its good to have a nice rapport with them. But DON'T RUSH into relationship or hook ups with them. Always give priority to your mental health, ladies. Sorry to say but law school is not the safest of all spaces.
Seniors, grow some spine, be more humane and don't manipulate and mentally harass the naive juniors. It's 2021. Objectifying women is so 2008. Manipulating junior girls world inflate your ego and make you feel super cool but actually, this only earns you a spot as the Honorary Mention in the List of Predatory Men.
With love,
A final year girl who is in anguish and curses herself for all the missed occasions she could have helped the women around her.