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I certainly see your concern because the lawyer personality has been stereotyped as the outgoing and brash go-getters. It isn't entirely wrong given that aggression seems rife at almost all law firms and also seems to bring some pay off. There are also some firms that also encourage aggressive behaviour. Years ago, one of my friends at a Tier-1 was given the feedback that she should be more aggressive in her partnership interview.
But, there is also place for more introverted folks - just not in every team or law firm. As with everything, it is important to understand the culture of the firm and the team with which you are seeking to work. I am pretty introverted myself, but my senior partners always pushed me to interact with clients and take up speaking engagements despite my discomfort in order for me to get over it.
There are many aspects of the job that an introvert can excel at - analysis, grasp and an ability to listen. Clients often feel like their lawyers don't understand them. An introvert can certainly have an advantage in this regard.
Also, although I don't advocate for changing your personality, as you go up the rung, it is important to be more confident and vocal. You can achieve this by just ensuring that you say your piece and what you say is rational - I always admire and like working with lawyers like that across the table , even if I have to concede, compared to those who scream and give everyone a headache. If you look at developing an ability to speak more confidently and publicly as a skill rather than a change in personality, you may find it more palatable and also easier to digest.
You also need to figure out your aim - do you want to be the star that everyone talks about? Then being out there is obviously more beneficial. Do you just want to good work and have a good rapport with your colleagues and partners? Although it is a low-key approach, this is quite possible.
To sum up, you are not a misfit if you find the right place for yourself and develop your confidence. And personalities are not and should not be static. To adapt to the world is a part of personal growth.